This month's research broken down into bite-sized pieces.
Resources at a Glance
But one thing is most admirable, which is, that this communicating of a man's self to his friend, works two contrary effects; for it redoubleth joys, and cutteth griefs in halves.
- Sir Francis Bacon 1561-1626
Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success.
- Proverbs 15:22
Our heart with these quick articles is to brief you on some highlights of what we have been researching here at Second Chair Solutions. Skim through and find something that interests you. If you want to dive deeper, there will be links for further reading. As always, we have free resources, articles, and templates on our website as well.
This month's focus is on:
Relationships - Work, Family, & Personal
Routines - Planning Your Morning
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Relationships - Work
Emailing While You're on Vacation
Is a Quick Way to Ruin Company Culture
This article hits on how much companies and leaders put into creating and building a great culture. Yet destroy that culture in two steps:
Step 1: Go on vacation. Step 2: Continue working like you never left.
Research shows that when we take time off, we rarely unplug and unwind. Between 86%-93% of senior leaders in America check in with work at least once a day while on vacation.
What the author highlights here is not the detriment on the lack of unplugging, but rather the crippling non-verbal message it sends to your team. This actually tears down trust inside your culture. A better two-step plan:
Step 1: Go on vacation. Step 2: Trust your employees to handle the business while you’re away.
Relationships - Family
How Our Careers Affect Our Children
We have all been there. The tension between family and work can stretch us thin. Often times we swing between the two pendulums believing we need to sacrifice one for the other. This article details research from 20 years ago from almost 1,000 professionals ranging in age from 25 to 63 years old, across an array of industries. This study and article is unlike any I have read about. Here are some highlights:
Children were more likely to show behavioral problems if their fathers were overly involved psychologically (read: emotionally) in their careers, whether or not they worked long hours.
Further, mothers spending time on themselves - on relaxation and self-care - and not so much on housework, was associated with positive outcomes for children.
Surprising note: Parents' time spent working and increased child care did not influence children's mental health.
Outcome: we can focus on our careers and the value it holds while working to be creative with ways to be present with our family and children. It's the quality time more than the hours spent that seem to make the difference. Quality time is real.
Larry Stockstill on 4 Things to Plan Out Your Year
A few years back I did a one day seminar intensive with Larry Stockstill that I still say is one of THE best conferences leaders or pastors can go to. In very practical ways, he spoke about these areas and so much more. In this short blog post he outlines 4 areas to plan for growth in your year; then gives practical steps in doing so. Here are the four areas.
Any organization needs to keep a good pulse on their metrics. To understand health, one has to keep an eye on the numbers. Lately, it has become popular to forgo the hard data and focus on the heart data, individuals' stories, and the intangibles that make an organization great. I really believe those intangibles are important. However, we can’t ignore numbers completely. This article dives into the heart behind the numbers question; and why it can feel like a personal affront for us when we are asked about those numbers. Why do we take the numbers so personally? Our response has more to do with our own mental & emotional well-being than we might want to admit.
A few takeaways:
Numbers do not lie, but they can hide things very well.
Your numbers do not define you; but they do offer more clarity into what is happening in your organization.
Your weekly attendance tells me:
The leadership ratio for your church
A ball park on your yearly budget
Your barriers of growth in depth and numbers
The percentage of reach into your community
Your evangelism focus
But it also allows me to ask these follow up questions:
How have the changes in attendance affected your staff, budgets, etc.?
How is your soul in this season?
What is working in your church?
What is not working in your church?
What is your long-term focus and how are you getting there?
An Interview with 300 High Achievers About Their Morning Routines.
Here’s What They Learned.
Sleep is something that we all love, but are not great at doing. Personally, I tinker with my sleep all the time. Trying to figure out what works for me. Sidenote: this can be especially tough if you have a partner you routinely sleep with.
This is short article is a great summary of more than 300 interviews with successful people about their morning routines. These are a highlight of some of the best practices.
Experiment with your wake-up time (avg. interviewed was 6:27 a.m.)
Make time for whatever energizes you - Marie Kondo immediately opens a window for fresh air
Get Enough Sleep - Be consistent with this, otherwise it will catch up to you.
Adapt your routine to different situations - have a travel routine that matches closely your at-home or weekend routines.
Don’t beat yourself up - You are a work in progress. Keep trying!
The article also lists several resources for experimenting with getting a better night sleep.